Calling all bachelors! You know you need help, and lots of it! I have made it really easy for you, and broken it down into two simple steps.
Step One: Get rid of the black leather sofa, it is not helping your game. It screams commitment-phobe more than anything else in your apartment. And the fact that it’s easy to clean — yuck!
Step Two: Hire a designer who will help give your home a very subtle feminine touch — just enough so that you can still hang out with your buds and have it not feel awkward, but also so that you can attract a woman for more than one night, assuming you want that. Btw, I am available — for design services that is!
I recently finished decorating a beautiful Soho loft for a single man in his mid-30′s. He could not have been easier to work with (this is what I love about a man who works all the time!). The end result is a beautifully designed home in navy blue and shades of gray (not that kind of shades, at least not that I know of!!).
We mixed textures and small-scale patterned fabrics to give his living room some interest. The room feels well-thought-out and of course it is crystal clear that a designer was all over this! From a female perspective, this points straight to this man’s ability to release control and let someone else take over — a VERY attractive quality in a man and one that will not be missed by female visitors!
The palette we worked with here is clean and classic and can easily be “femmed- up” by adding in some girl-ier colors in throw pillows, a cashmere blanket or other accessories. I would love some lavender or dark purple in this room. Here are some fabrics I would throw in for a softer touch:
Before you get your boxers in a twist, just admit that I know way more about women than you do! The purples look great with the navy blue sofa and they will not hurt your masculine image even one bit.
You may also want to show your commitment (there’s that word again!) to this color scheme by adding in a pair of purple lamps like these from Swank Lighting:
My bachelor client wanted his apartment to be clean and handsome, but he also envisioned the space as a home for his future wife and child. Fyi, there is nothing more attractive that a man can say, even to his decorator! If you too want a space that feels masculine but is also ready to accommodate a potential mate, here are some more suggestions:
Your bedroom MUST have two bedside tables — makes it look like you actually care about someone other than just yourself! The Sussex Bedside Chest from Lewis Mittman is a great choice because it also doubles as a dresser so you won’t have to empty any of your other drawers for her.
A fully upholstered bed like the Chamber Bed from Hickory Chair is substantial and manly, but when upholstered in a luxe velvet fabric like the navy blue one above from Romo, it can also be soft and definitely sexy.
Whether or not you ever eat at a meal at home other than on the couch, you should have a dining table and enough seats for a small dinner party (Helpful hint: this shows you are also a family man!). The Nexus Round table from Dennis Miller is sleek and stylish and can double as a poker table.
Even you Archie Bunker types can have your chair and recline in it too, and still feminize your living space. Edward Ferrell makes incredibly comfortable reclining club chairs that most women would say yes too — they don’t even have to really love you to let you keep one of these chairs! Just don’t upholster it in anything that rhymes with feather!
To reiterate, feminine touches don’t make you look like less of a man. In fact, just the opposite. They accentuate how comfortable and confident you are in your own skin. And btw, why do you think they call them “throw” pillows? So you can throw them into the closet when your boys show up to watch football!